Sexuality

I often sit and wonder why sexuality labels are so important. Do straight people define who they are by their sexuality? When they let others know who they are dating, are they then confronted by conversations regarding why they are with someone of the opposite gender? I'm gonna go out on a limb here, not very far, and say nope, they don't. So why is it, when someone who does not identify as straight but may identify as any number of other labels or not, have to have conversations regarding their partners? I, personally, do not identify as straight. Nor do I identify as bi or lesbian. Queer fits me much better. In my opinion. In others opinion, it seems, I am bisexual. And to this I say--So what? Who cares? And lastly--does it matter? Because the last time I checked it doesn't matter and I certainly do not care. In fact I would really rather not label myself at all. Have I stated I am lesbian in the last two years? Yes. Did I 100% identify that way? No. But it is pretty close to how I identify. Now, as many people I know personally can account for--I made it clear that I would never say I would "never" be with a man again. I felt like that was too definitive of an answer. I did say that I did not see myself with a man again. Which was true. I am with a guy though. And guess what?! I have had to answer questions about my sexuality almost every day since I did this. Most of my friends and family seem as though they could care less stating "If you're happy then I'm happy". Others are so stuck on the fact that I like women and that my boyfriend is, well, a boy *gasp*.

Alice, a bisexual lady, from The L Word says "It just so happens I am looking for the same quality in a guy that I am in a girl". The Kinsey Scale is a scale regarding sexuality 0-6. 0 is straight, 3 is somewhere in the middle and 6 is gay with no interest in the opposite gender. I fall somewhere in the 4 or 5 range. Just so happens, my heart, doesn't care that I am so close to the 6 area. And neither should anyone else :)